It still feels like just yesterday that we brought Benjamin home, and everyday I find there is another first added to the list. The first time he stiffened his legs to stand, his first sit in the Bumbo, his first jump in the JollyJumper, his first and only 6 hr sleep to date, and now his first attempt at solid foods (btw I LOVE my baby bullet). Sometimes I wanna scream STOP! Stop getting bigger, stop trying to grown up, just stop. My newborn is no newborn anymore. He is my little guy who has just eaten his first solid food. We even have a half roll (from tummy to back). Wow, I find it so crazy we are here already.
Ben is saying "MOMA" without a doubt! Tony 100% agrees he has said it a hand full of times and always when I have passed him off to Tony to leave the room. So heart melting! I'm scared to blink these days that I might miss something spectacular and I can't wait to see what he learns he can do next. Now if I could only get him to sleep through the night... anyone heard of "No-cry Sleep training?" What does it involve? Was is successful? I have just been informed there is such a thing, off to researching I go. Thanks for stopping in for a read.
What an eye opener motherhood has been, I will be the first to admit that I may have made assumptions and conclusions (aka judging) about mothers before me. I am here to tell you that it is very rare to have the same pregnancy, labour, birth, baby or motherhood story. And therefore what you have not experienced first hand you cannot completely understand and may I suggest you offer support instead of judgement. Nothing about this process is easy, in fact I like to call it "Rolling with the punches."
Lately I have been feeling judged, I feel like choices and decisions we have made are being scrutinized. I find myself defending everything from formula, breast feeding, co-sleeping, traveling in the car, using a soother, and the no-cry method. I don't know why I defend anything, to be honest Benjamin is the happiest baby ever and if he's happy then I am happy and we must be doing something right... right?
It is unfortunate that we live is a society where everyone feels the need and right to cast judgement on you or that anyone feels they have to justify any choices. I should stand up for my decisions and be strong because right or wrong my mother always told me it's about the follow through. The truth is no one knows the whole story and there is always a bigger picture. I, myself have been caught on judgement because I was unaware of the bigger picture, and because of that for sometime now I have been working on not judging and instead offer a listening ear. It is very hard at first glance to any scenario not to cast judgement, and I have to stop and remind myself that I do not know the whole story. But more importantly that it is non of my business.
In the end everything has a cause and effect, I along with everyone else know that, and if I can live with the effects of my cause then that should be good enough for anyone. Benjamin is who he is because of the choices my husband and I have made to raise him. We are doing the best we can in every way, and that I promise you. So shouldn't that be enough for you? And really why do you care?